"How did it get so late so soon?
It's night before it's afternoon.
December is here before it's June.
My goodness how the time has flewn.
How did it get so late so soon?"
- Dr. Seuss
- Dr. Seuss
Hello friends . . .
As most of you know I have been raising Monarch caterpillars since March and since then and the flutter of butterflies I have released I have learned a few lessons from them about life along the way.
And you know what? Being a parent isn't much different than raising Monarchs, except to say that our children have a much higher percentage of making it to college than a caterpillar does of ever becoming a butterfly. Which is a really good thing . . .
As most of you know I have been raising Monarch caterpillars since March and since then and the flutter of butterflies I have released I have learned a few lessons from them about life along the way.
And you know what? Being a parent isn't much different than raising Monarchs, except to say that our children have a much higher percentage of making it to college than a caterpillar does of ever becoming a butterfly. Which is a really good thing . . .
As I went searching for milkweed this past spring, to attract Monarchs to my garden, it was also in hope of watching the stages from egg, to larva, to caterpillar and eventually to the miraculous transformation into a butterfly. It was also exciting . . . to know I was taking part in helping the Monarchs. To feed and watch them grow, and to keep them safe so they could eventually fulfill their purpose. But it hasn't been without a bit of stress, as there are so many things that can go wrong.
And you know what? Parenting is kind of like that. Yep, it's just like that . . . exciting and scary all at once. Along with being a privilege, there is also a huge responsibility that goes along with that, to be entrusted with a tiny new life. We will nourish them (mind, body, and soul), and watch them grow . . . helping to keep them safe so that they too can fulfill their life's purpose.
In the hospital they hand you your baby, and there is a joy and an excitement about all that being a parent entails. For me it has never been about expectations of who or what they will become, but instead about being able to witness the journey of them becoming who they were meant to be and to be part of that process. To be a loving guide and a place for their safe landing in the battle field of life, because . . .
Lesson #1: Life isn't always fair
(not a new concept, just one worth reviewing)
No life isn't always fair, never has been and never will be. In fact just ask a caterpillar. There will always be many challenges in life, we just have to have enough determination to rise above them. In fact a glass of lemonade is just that, a glass of lemonade, but a bowl full of lemons . . . that, is an opportunity. And I for one would much rather our kids learn how to solve problems than to give up because they don't know how to make lemonade . . . because they've never been allowed to have lemons.
This past weekend we took our daughter to college, for the very first time.
It. Was. Hard.
But it is also exciting.
As much as part of me wants to keep her safely tucked inside our nest, the other part of me knows that was never part of the plan. Our children don't really belong to us, they are just of us and it's our job from day one to prepare them not for a life with out us, but away from us.
I have had the pleasure of watching her grow both physically and spiritually, emotionally and intellectually, from a baby to now 18 years old. And just like the caterpillar, I have watched a miraculous transformation. Now she will set out on a new adventure to follow her heart and dreams and to explore the world in a new way . . . on her own terms.
And not if, but when she runs into a bowl of lemons, I hope she remembers how to make lemonade.
{KK Culligan scripted}
I just have to hold on to the fact that we have done the best we could to instill values in our kids that will go with them anywhere they go, and that family, friendships, honesty and hard work is far more valuable than any material possessions they will ever have. Ever!
As a parent you always know in the back of your mind that this day will come, but thinking and doing are two totally different things.
But then, before your eyes their wings emerge.
Which brings me to . . .
Lesson #2: Eventually, they will take flight.
It will happen, whether you are ready or not. Sometimes whether they are ready or not.
How did it get so late so soon?
Love, Kim
{Linking with Texture Tuesday, Tuesday Muse, Tuesday Around the World, Sweet Shot Tuesday}
As a parent you always know in the back of your mind that this day will come, but thinking and doing are two totally different things.
But then, before your eyes their wings emerge.
Which brings me to . . .
Lesson #2: Eventually, they will take flight.
It will happen, whether you are ready or not. Sometimes whether they are ready or not.
How did it get so late so soon?
Love, Kim
{Linking with Texture Tuesday, Tuesday Muse, Tuesday Around the World, Sweet Shot Tuesday}